Superficial

So it has been a long time since I have posted, but I am sure you are used to that. My topic today is somewhat....unpopular. And when I say that I mean this is one of those things that society says you should NEVER say out loud, because to do so makes you a bad person. Well actually society says to even think it makes you a bad person, but I am convinced that a lot of people do think it, but they are afraid to say it out loud. And before you go off thinking too scary of things, I am not talking about paedophilia or incest or anything like that that harms people. This is something more simple...superficiality. In this instance, thinking that looks, both face and body composition, matter. I will put a warning right here up front: If you are my friend, you might not want to read this, because you might not like me anymore afterwards. You have been warned.
Now I have long admitted that looks matter to me when it comes to dating and sexual relations. They matter to everyone really. I mean how can you have sexual relations with someone you don't find attractive. But today's post goes beyond that. Or, well maybe it doesn't. Perhaps that is exactly what it is about.
Let me start with an example. I have a friend here in Iowa City. He has dated a guy for almost a year now. It has been a very rocky relationship full of his boyfriend treating him like crap, cheating on him, and suffering from alcoholism. But I am going to set aside those obvious reasons for why he should dump him, and go to the superficial one. This friend of mine is very attractive. He is about 6', pretty blue eyes, in great shape, muscular, arms any guy would envy, nice tan, etc. Anyone, both gay guy or straight girl would go out with him, and indeed he gets hit on all the time. Although I am not sure he realizes thats what people are doing. His boyfriend, however, though of the same age, lacks his physcial characteristics. He is tan, but it is one of those plastic looking shades from a booth or spray on, he is shorter, he has bad highlights, and worst to me, he weighs like 100 pounds. Very, very skinny guy. What it is called...a twink. I am sure I have discussed twinks before. I have a passionate dislike of them as a group normally. And no change with this one. He is super effeminate and has lots of attitude. Well since they have been together for so long, there are plenty of photos of them out at bars and such. And when I see them...I think there is something wrong in the world. Like the fates were asleep on the job, or Cupid fucked up and hit the wrong person with his arrow. Surely two such people should never be together. I tried for a long time to wrap my head around why my friend ever agreed to go out with the guy in the first place. (He has since admitted to me that he doesn't find his bf attractive either, and that the guy isn't his type at all)
And to make matters even more superficial (that is the topic of the day afterall), I consider the guy beneath my friend. I feel he could do so much better and has either settled or lowered himself to go out with this guy. He actually loses a little bit of respect in my eyes for going out with him. Its like seeing someone with great potential, and then squandering it. He has been given, and he has worked for too, this gift that most people will never have, and he is wasting it. This isn't the only time I have had this reaction. I remember being at Circuit in Chicago and seeing this absolutely beautiful shirtless guy (its a gay dance club, so of course he was shirtless), with a fantastic body and flawless skin I can only dream about, and then I saw his boyfriend. And I just wanted to cry. It was this little 18 year old twink. Practically a child. So these examples are to say that to me the perfect world is one where people date, for lack of a better term (because I am not a fan of this one), within their league. Or at least close to it. Up or down 1 or 2, alright, that works. But someone at the top with someone...well not even really in the middle? No sir! That's just a travesty.
Now before you think me absolutely the worst person ever, I should say at least that these judgments extend only to the dating/sex realm. None of this stuff matters when deciding who your friends are, or who to hire for a job, or things like that. In those areas who really cares what folks look like? Nor am I saying that two pretty people should date just because they are pretty. Looks are not the only thing to be considered. Personality and intelligence are equally important. I am just saying looks are too. So in conclusion I have realized that I am superficial...and I don't care! Hmm, does that make me a bad person society?